Actually, yes, this *is* Goth

jkalovesskeletons asked: I sent you an ask before, and I just wanted to clarify that at this point I find thisisnotgoth ridiculously annoying. However, I do enjoy her personal blog. I think the humorous intent of thisisnotgoth kinda gets lost in the narrormindedness and obsessiveness. But anyway, what is your opinion of "nugoth"? Also whats your favorite band? c:

Okay, I’ll answer the short, easy one first.  My favourite band is Type O Negative, and has been since 1994.  =)

Now, here’s the big long answer, so bear with me (and aidanapocalypse, you sent me a question as well, so I’m kind of going to address both of them at once).

Believe it or not, even though I’m closing in on 41, I still vividly remember what it’s like to be a teenager; I don’t have kids of my own, but I have a very good memory and I’m still about 22 in my head.  I remember how IMPORTANT it was that people understood that the image I had chosen for myself was conveyed correctly and wasn’t tainted or sullied in any way.  So I do understand where “thisisnot” is coming from in that sense, and in a way we were more fortunate—nobody wanted to mess around with the goth subculture at that point.  If you were in it, you were there because you wanted to be, not because it was marketable or “cool”.  So, I do get it.

But that right there is the crux of the matter, and why I think so many people are struggling to maintain what they think is “pure”.  I’ll explain.

To start, I’ll answer your question about “nugoth”.  I don’t think this is actually goth, and I’ll tell you why—nugoth is simply a fashion trend.  And here’s where people like “thisisnot” get confused and caught up in semantics.

Yes, the goth subgenre started with the music—but the music was, at its moment of inception, inexorably linked with the look and aesthetic.  Because the people that started the music movement—Siouxsie, Peter Murphy, Dave Vanian, Roz Williams, and yes—Andrew Eldritch, all his howling protests aside (just to name a few)—brought with their music a look and aesthetic that was immediately married to the sound.

And as soon as they did, the fans and other musicians began to expand on that idea.  As I mentioned in my last answer to a question, most of the things I’ve posted about here were already in the scene when I entered it in the mid- to late-80’s.  The black clothing, the velvet, the black lipstick, the love of horror and horror movies, the Victorian-era things, the Romantics (not the band), bats, ravens, candles, clove cigarettes, cemeteries, the macabre, ad infinitum, ad nauseum.

See, the thing is, most people who became part of the goth scene already loved these things on their own—they found the music later.  It was a revelation—music that expressed the darker things they loved, and embraced it.  You can’t be born into the world knowing about goth music, but you can be born into the world loving all those things.  So you find goth music, and you come home, in a sense.  

Or, if you don’t necessarily already have a love for those things, but you discover goth music and love it, some of that stuff creeps in (no pun intended).  Because if there’s something in goth music that speaks to you, then there’s something in you that’s attracted to those things, at least on a basic level.  Now, I’m not saying you HAVE to love those things, but it’s usually a natural progression.

So what “thisisnot” is missing is the fact that these trappings weren’t added on by people who were poseurs or something—the root of them was always there, and they were naturally added on (some of them very quickly) as the scene grew.

Now, as I said earlier, if you were a goth up until about the mid-90’s or so, it’s because you wanted to be.  It’s because it was part and parcel of who you were.  It took dedication to seek out and find that music, because it wasn’t played on the radio (with a few notable exceptions, like WFNX in Boston, or college radio stations, or “120 Minutes” on MTV).  And finding clothes also took some doing—pre-internet, you had to either live in or near a city that had a shop that sold gothic clothing, or you had to shop at Ren Faires, or send away through the snail mail for catalogues (all of which I did).  

We were very much of a “tribe” mentality at that point, and we could identify each other by our paint—white face makeup, black lipstick, hairsprayed crimped hair, black velvet clothes, combat boots, the music we listened to, etc.  Going out to a goth club or a goth night was like coming home.  

Then.

Hot Topic happened.

At first, we were thrilled.  A store in the mall that sold goth clothes!  I could shop for Sanctuary clothing whenever I wanted!  I didn’t have to horde black lipstick and nail polish at Halloween and hoped it lasted the entire year until next October!  It was great.

Until we realised that if *we* could buy goth clothes—so could everybody else.

Suddenly, people who had never walked the walk could talk the talk.  And people who were not goths were dressing like them.  Suddenly, goth became a fashion trend.

And that’s where we find ourselves today, and why people find the need to make tumblr blogs like “thisisnotgoth”.  Because the goth subgenre is no longer just that—it’s also become a fashion trend.  Before, we were safe in our black tower; we didn’t mix with other people, and other people (with the occasional exception of a high fashion magazine trying to do an “edgy” shoot) didn’t mix with us.  But now our look is being appropriated—but it’s just the look, without any of the history or the aesthetics.  And that makes people upset, uncomfortable and mad.

And I can understand that.  Before, when I was younger, goths were misunderstood as “satanists”.  Then the emo kids came along, and we got confused with them (and if anybody’s wondering, the two are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT, but that’s another post).  And now, with this “nugoth” trend, it’s doing it all over again, but it’s worse because they’ve even stolen our name.

But the danger in trying to maintain the essence of something is that in doing so, you run the risk of shutting out new thoughts and ideas and allowing the thing itself to stagnate, and I think that’s why I was so upset with “thisisnot”—especially when I realised how young they were.  If the goth community is going to grow, we need to be open to the younger generation, to new ideas, styles, and change.

As I said in my last post—do we need to accept everything willy-nilly?  No, of course not.  I think “nugoth” is simply a fad that non-goth people are trying on and will eventually fade away once the next big thing comes along.  But if somebody likes to listen to goth music and wears pink skull barrettes while they’re doing it?  Hell, more power to them—Siouxsie had a pink album cover, lest we forget.

So, to end this long-winded answer.  Yes, goth did start with the music—but it immediately became something much, much bigger.  And that thing immediately began growing and changing.  And as members of the goth community, it’s important for us to grow and change along with it, while keeping the original spirit of goth undead at the center of it.

livelyarts asked: In my opinion I think your view of what Goth includes is far too broad. 'Goth' has been bastardized beyond the point of recognition and includes way too many not-traditionally-goth things. It is so disheartening to see people I've not seen a *long* time who say to me 'I heard you'd gone goth, but this is nothing like what I was expecting' because they don't have the first IDEA what Goth actually was (still is!) because of all the non-Goth shit they've been exposed to with the tag attached!

That’s fine, of course—everybody’s entitled to their opinion.  However, there’s one small flaw in your logic.  My “view of Goth”, as you put it, the majority of which I put forth in this blog, actually hasn’t changed much at all from what existed in the scene when I first entered it in the mid- to late-80’s.  So most of the things you think *I’m* considering goth that you think aren’t have been in the Goth scene for well over 20+ years.  I’m not suddenly inventing ravens, black lipstick, cobwebs, creaky old houses, velvet, black clothing, a penchant for things Victorian, etc.

Edit:  And it’s not just me, either.  My husband, who’s a year younger than me (39, almost 40) is British and was in the British Goth scene as long as I’ve been in the North American one (mainly New England/Boston for me).  And he concurs with me about all the things I’ve posted here in this blog—they were essentials to “What Is Goth” over in England as well.  And they’re pretty hardcore about their Gothiness over there, let me tell you.  They even put the Boston Goths to shame.

Yes, some things in the last 10 years or so have encroached on the Goth scene that weren’t there before—but so what?  Are we to remain stagnant, staunchly clinging to our musty old bats and canes simply because THAT’S THE WAY IT’S ALWAYS BEEN DAMMIT and WHO ARE THESE KIDS THESE DAYS WHAT WITH THEIR PASTEL COLOURED CORSETS and GET OFF MY LAWN WITH YOUR NEW-FANGLED ELECTRONIC MUSIC?  

Personally, I prefer to be inclusive, to see what others can bring to the fold.  Does that mean we need to accept everything willy-nilly? No, of course not.  But if it fits with the aesthetic, why not work it in?  That’s how the Goth genre was born, you know—our lofty gothfathers and gothmothers grabbing what they liked and molding it to suit their needs.

Can’t we be as open-minded as they were? 

Goth *is* about more than just the music.  The music is the starting point.  The rest—ah, the rest is the glorious black icing on the macabre cake.

thisisnotgoth:

THIS IS NOT GOTH
 #the girl with the dragon tattoo
Nope. Nope. Nope. 

Yup.  Yup.  Yup.  There is nothing in this photo that is not goth.  Well—okay, Scarlett Johansson isn’t goth herself, but everything she’s portraying for this particular photoshoot *is*.  And that diner she’s in doesn’t look too goth, but hey! It’s a time-honoured goth tradition to stay up drunk in Denny’s all night, so who am I to judge?
So, she gets to be “Goth For A Day”!  Lucky Scarlett!

thisisnotgoth:

THIS IS NOT GOTH

Yup.  Yup.  Yup.  There is nothing in this photo that is not goth.  Well—okay, Scarlett Johansson isn’t goth herself, but everything she’s portraying for this particular photoshoot *is*.  And that diner she’s in doesn’t look too goth, but hey! It’s a time-honoured goth tradition to stay up drunk in Denny’s all night, so who am I to judge?

So, she gets to be “Goth For A Day”!  Lucky Scarlett!

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blackcollarcitizen asked: where'd you go?

Sorry, I’m still here.  Had the in-laws over from England for a couple of weeks; and October is generally the busy time of year for hubby and I (what with Halloween—which is also our anniversary, good Goths that we are—and all).  There hasn’t been much on the “other” blog for me to reblog about, so that’s also why it’s been quiet.  =)

thisisnotgoth:

THIS IS NOT GOTH

These are just fetishistic bird-angel things. Yes, there is crossover between Goth and fetish, but this doesn’t seem to be one of those cases.

Actually, yes, this *does* seem to be one of those cases.  This is goth fashion to a T.  It just happens to be having a nice little how-do-you-do with cybergoth; which, despite what you probably think, *is* goth.

I really like those wings.  The neck corsets I could do without, though.  I have problems enough with regular corsets.

Which are also goth, by the way.

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black-collar-citizen-deactivate asked: Thank you! A lot of the things "thisisnotgoth" posts influence the subculture. Ravens aren't goth? Skeletons aren't goth? wearing BLACK isn't goth? Okay, so some things may not directly relate back to Bauhaus and Siouxsie Sioux, but dammit, many of us goths love these little things and have incorporated it into our style. LOVE YOU!

Thanks!  I don’t like it when people play games with semantics, and then use those games to ostracize and draw lines over which they say others cannot cross.

The purpose of my blog is to obliterate those lines and let Red Rover (or, you know, Rover dressed all in black) come on over.

Coilhouse: “I am so goth, I was born black.”

stunthusband:

Saw this linked on Boingboing. EVERYONE should read it. Otherness is to be embraced, celebrated, encouraged. 

People of color can follow whatever aesthetic they choose. The StuntWife has responded to questions at her website about this very issue. I encourage everyone to remember that we’re freaks to the mainstream; don’t do something as INSANELY STUPID as behave like jackass racists - we’re all freaks TOGETHER.

And I require as much otherness around me as I can get.

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This Is Not Goth: Pastel "Goths," Nu "Goths," and the rest of you.

thisisnotgoth:

Let me begin my stating the obvious: Just because it’s black, has a pentagram on it, has a skull on it, is reminiscent of the Gothic (with an -IC) styles of fashion, does not make it “Goth.”

That being said, there is simply no place for your idea of “White Goth,” “Pastel Goth,” “Nu Goth,” or “whatever-you-want-here Goth.”  It quite simply does not exist.  There is Goth-IC.  the I-C at the end is, in fact, incredibly important.  The word “Gothic” encompasses any of the following:  Macabre themes, dark imagery, preference for the sordid, dark (particularly neutral) colors, faux-Victorian fashion, BDSM aspects, ethereal encounters, literature/poetry, high-rising and spiral-infused architecture, haunting chapel music, lyrical quality.

Great.  You have Gothic aspects to your posts (the concept of scaring your parents must be very appealing).  HOWEVER, this does not make them Goth. “Goth” in contemporary culture is a word that describes solely to the Gothic Rock subculture, an offshoot of the post-punk scene in the UK at the end of the 70’s.  Common attributes of Gothic Rock follow those found in the umbrella of “Gothic:” dark imagery, sordid scenes, ethereal encounters, romancing of death. Bands most commonly associated with the early Goth scene include Bauhaus, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Alien Sex Fiend, and the Cure.  The American sister-scene, called deathrock in the US, was founded on bands such as Theatre of Ice and Christian Death. 

But even though there is overlap, there is still a distinction between the two—a distinction that people like you and contemporary media have been stripping down for far too long.  It’s people like you who have broken down the scene to where I can’t call myself a Goth without having to deal with you spooky alt kids all the time.  

Which brings me to part two: alternative beauty.

There is a subculture already in place for you people, a subculture that is designed to simply go against traditional ideas of beauty such as light colors, natural hair, tan skin, whatever you want to define “typical beauty” as:  Alternative.

Nondescript, boring, and encompasses every single thing you are accomplishing: attempting to go against traditional ideas of beauty.  

Now stop calling yourselves Goths. 

Wow.  The blinder parade is out in force, I see.  

Hate to break it to you, but your entire description is not only wrong, but you contradict yourself.

You say:  ”“Goth” in contemporary culture is a word that describes solely to the Gothic Rock subculture, an offshoot of the post-punk scene in the UK at the end of the 70’s.  Common attributes of Gothic Rock follow those found in the umbrella of “Gothic:” dark imagery, sordid scenes, ethereal encounters, romancing of death.”

Well—yes.  So you’re arguing my point for me.  You’re saying the word “goth” is exactly what I’ve been arguing it is all this time—an umbrella word for lots and lots of different things under the subculture.

HOWEVER—I take issue with your use of the word “sordid”.  Sordid means, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary:  

: marked by baseness or grossness : vile <sordid motives>

2
a : dirtyfilthy
b : wretchedsqualid

3
: meanly avaricious : covetous

4
: of a dull or muddy color

None of those things have anything remotely to do with goth or the goth scene. I believe you may have chosen your word poorly there. Now, despite what you might think, there are MANY DIFFERENT KINDS OF GOTHS.  And just because you don’t like all of them, just because they don’t fit your narrow (and obviously erroneous) definition of what goth “should be” does NOT mean they—or me, because I’m sure I’d get lumped in as well—should “stop calling ourselves goths”.

I’m not about to change my self-identity because *you* don’t like it or it offends your delicate sensibilities.  Because you know what?  Based on *my* experience and *my* knowledge of the goth subculture, *I* fit the definition just fine, thank you.

Instead of insisting people need to change to fit your definition, maybe it’s time you changed your definition—or expanded your knowledge base, so your definition is updated, corrected and expanded as well.

thisisnotgoth:

THIS IS NOT GOTH
This seems to be an example of pastel Goth which, as we all know, has nothing to do with Goth.

Actually, we *don&#8217;t* all know that.
Some of us don&#8217;t ascribe to your narrowminded, semantic-laden, my-way-or-the-highway view of what &#8220;goth&#8221; is (this is beginning to sound like the Clinton impeachment trial).
I wouldn&#8217;t call the above picture pastel goth myself, but that&#8217;s just me.
HOWEVER
I don&#8217;t have a problem with &#8220;pastel goth&#8221; as a sub-sub genre.  As you&#8217;ve so often stated yourself &#8220;BLACK DOES NOT EQUAL GOTH&#8221;.  So, if people want to listen to goth music and wear lovely pastel colours while doing so&#8212;more power to them, I say.  Or, if they like spooky things but prefer them cute&#8212;why the hell not?

thisisnotgoth:

THIS IS NOT GOTH

This seems to be an example of pastel Goth which, as we all know, has nothing to do with Goth.

Actually, we *don’t* all know that.

Some of us don’t ascribe to your narrowminded, semantic-laden, my-way-or-the-highway view of what “goth” is (this is beginning to sound like the Clinton impeachment trial).

I wouldn’t call the above picture pastel goth myself, but that’s just me.

HOWEVER

I don’t have a problem with “pastel goth” as a sub-sub genre.  As you’ve so often stated yourself “BLACK DOES NOT EQUAL GOTH”.  So, if people want to listen to goth music and wear lovely pastel colours while doing so—more power to them, I say.  Or, if they like spooky things but prefer them cute—why the hell not?

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afetishforhorrorandgore-deactiv asked: I've always considered myself Goth because of my interest in the macabre and darker side of life, but I dress normally. I can't afford anything fancy so most of my clothing comes from Wal Mart or Target. It seems stupid to ask, but is this okay for a Goth? Can Goths dress normally/casually without being considered a poser?

Ah, Goth on a budget.  I’ve been there.  And no, it’s not stupid to ask.

Here’s the thing.  As I’ve mentioned before, people who consider themselves “goth” usually find it’s an interior thing that manifests itself in exterior ways.  So, the music you find yourself listening to, the books you read, the makeup you wear, your stickers on your car, and yes—the way you dress.

But again—NOT ALL THE TIME.

So.  That being said, there are *so* many ways you can “dress goth”.  It doesn’t have to be “fancy”.  Personally, my day-to-day wardrobe consists mainly of black clothing, with a lot of orange and some blue or purple thrown in.  Some of it’s “fancy”, sure—but I usually wear that for going out or special occasions.  Most of the time, I’m just wearing basic wardrobe things—leggings, sweaters, t-shirts, whatever. 

They just happen to be black.

I do have boots—lots and lots of black boots.  And black high-top sneakers with buckles on.  And stuff like that.

Also, as time goes on and I get older, I don’t dress in the elaborate goth stuff as much.  But my outfits still reflect my individuality (I think so, anyway)—I’ve never dressed “normally”.  Well, I did when my mother picked out my clothes, but not since then.

So, to sum up.

I think that if you consider yourself goth, you’re going to naturally gravitate towards certain styles of dress.  Not all the time, but a lot of the time.  And your wardrobe will probably contain a lot of black (unless you’re one of the different subsets that eschews it in favour  of something else).

But as a goth—yeah, once in a while, you’re going to wear something “gothy”.  Whether it’s fancy, or whether it’s an outfit you’ve put together yourself doesn’t matter.

I hope at least some of that answers your question.  =P

So, things have been a bit quiet here&#8212;sorry about that.  The main reason being that over at the &#8220;This Is Not Goth&#8221; blog, either I specifically, or everybody in general, can&#8217;t reblog any of the text posts.  And since those are the ones that usually contain context to which I object, that&#8217;s why there&#8217;s been crickets here.
But goth crickets.  Chirping mournfully, dressed in black velvet.
Hopefully I&#8217;ll have something new for you guys soon, though.  I&#8217;m working on a couple of things.  =)

So, things have been a bit quiet here—sorry about that.  The main reason being that over at the “This Is Not Goth” blog, either I specifically, or everybody in general, can’t reblog any of the text posts.  And since those are the ones that usually contain context to which I object, that’s why there’s been crickets here.

But goth crickets.  Chirping mournfully, dressed in black velvet.

Hopefully I’ll have something new for you guys soon, though.  I’m working on a couple of things.  =)

thisisnotgoth:

THIS IS PRETTY FUCKING GOTH

If you don’t like this song, you can’t be Goth (just kidding)(well, mostly just kidding)

Actually, Sisters of Mercy are one of my *least* favourite goth bands; Andrew’s a bit of a wanker, and I find a lot of their early music a bit boring.  Out of all of their stuff, I happen to like “Vision Thing”, their last album, the most.  That is a quality album.

But that being said, Patricia Morrison is the bomb.  That is one classy goth lady rocker right there.

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gothiccharmschool:

gothconfessions:

steampoweredquesadilla confessed- I feel like I’ve gotten past my babybat years, thanks to finally gaining a fashion sense, but I still don’t feel like I’m worthy to be considered “fully goth.” I’m too scared to actually go out there and ask older and wiser goths for advice.
Admin Note- The girl pictured is Psychara.

Seeing posts like this makes me a bit sad, because I know there are oodles of older goths who want to, for lack of a better phrase, mentor the younger members of the subculture. But the stereotype of the bitchy eldergoth who mocks anyone younger than them is always in the back of people’s minds. 
This post also makes me a little wistful, because there is just no way I can ever answer every question sent to Gothic Charm School; even if I were to give up doing anything else, there still wouldn’t be enough time. But I do try, and I try to answer questions here on Tumblr. 
Don’t be afraid to ask questions of other goths! If they’re bitchy and mean in reply, that’s a reflection on them, not on you. 

Oh my gosh&#8212;this makes me sad.  I&#8217;m posting this to both of my gothy blogs; I am a Sad Olde Goth of long-standing.  Don&#8217;t ever be afraid to ask me anything.  Seriously.

gothiccharmschool:

gothconfessions:

steampoweredquesadilla confessed- I feel like I’ve gotten past my babybat years, thanks to finally gaining a fashion sense, but I still don’t feel like I’m worthy to be considered “fully goth.” I’m too scared to actually go out there and ask older and wiser goths for advice.

Admin Note- The girl pictured is Psychara.

Seeing posts like this makes me a bit sad, because I know there are oodles of older goths who want to, for lack of a better phrase, mentor the younger members of the subculture. But the stereotype of the bitchy eldergoth who mocks anyone younger than them is always in the back of people’s minds. 

This post also makes me a little wistful, because there is just no way I can ever answer every question sent to Gothic Charm School; even if I were to give up doing anything else, there still wouldn’t be enough time. But I do try, and I try to answer questions here on Tumblr. 

Don’t be afraid to ask questions of other goths! If they’re bitchy and mean in reply, that’s a reflection on them, not on you. 

Oh my gosh—this makes me sad.  I’m posting this to both of my gothy blogs; I am a Sad Olde Goth of long-standing.  Don’t ever be afraid to ask me anything.  Seriously.

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jkalovesskeletons asked: you know i do enjoy the blog thisisnotgoth, i find it amusing, and often yes there are a lot of things wrongly tagged goth. what most angers me is mislabeling music. but it can be one-sided and close-minded. if people didnt take it so hard, they could learn a bit about what the subculture isnt, i like this blog because its another opinion. there are lots of different goths. i think to inform people about the subculture its better to say "goth is (or can be) this." not "this is not goth"

Well, that’s what gets my knickers in a twist.  Lord knows, yes—buckets of stuff gets tagged as “goth” that isn’t.  And I’ve said time and again—you’ll notice the majority of stuff on that blog I don’t repost.  Because it *isn’t* goth, and I have no quarrel with it being on there.

But honestly, this is why I don’t really post any of my own opinions flat out here, because I don’t want to be an arbitrator on what “is and isn’t”—I’m simply rebutting some of the “isn’ts” on the other blog.

It’s easy to sit in judgement and point fingers at others, but you never truly learn anything that way.  You also run the very real risk of alienating people.  And the one thing I love about the goth subculture and its community is that it’s a very accepting one; the whole point of goth is that it’s outside the norm.  

I never felt “normal” as a kid or a teenager, and I immediately felt at home and welcomed in the goth community.  And if you’re telling people that what they like is or isn’t something—without educating them—then you’re going to alienate them even further.

I’m more interested in bringing them into the fold, personally.